Death and dying

Lake Effect

Surviving grief, looking for a path back home The stillness of my apartment is deafening. I wake to the sun beating through my blinds and the drone of the air...

My father, our Father

It can take a lifetime to step past a history of hurt, but 12 steps is a good way to start. When my young son asks me what God looks like, I want to tell him...

Do this in memory

One day a friend of mine called a classmate from college with whom she had not talked in years, only to learn that the woman’s 7-month-old baby had...

Cry aloud to God

Every time Mary Borner goes to church at St. Thecla Parish in Chicago she pictures her husband's casket going down the aisle. She and Jack had been married...

Grave Responsibilities

This article is adapted from Thomas Lynch’s essay collections, The Undertaking (W.W. Norton and Co., 1997) and Bodies in Motion and at Rest (W.W. Norton...

How to handle grief

Jack Miller, author of Healing Our Losses: A Journal for Working Through Your Grief (1993), doesn't tell peple how to grieve-only that they must grieve...

Ritual rewards

What Mary Hansen rmembers about her father's sudden death 22 years ago was praying the rosary at St. Anthony's Church in Tigard, Oregon. She and...

Is there life after death?

In 1975 the unthinkable happened: Paula D'Arcy lost her husband, Roy, and 21-month-old daughter, Sarah, after a drunk driver hit their car. Pregnant at the...